Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Blog 120: Curtailing Bullying

By Kenneth A. Simmons, M.Ed.
(Guest writer)

    One of the most horrific behaviors or set of experiences being presented on stage throughout America is bullying. Many experts agree that bullying may take on many different forms; however, bullying can generally be defined as deliberate and hurtful behavior repeated over a period of time or in isolated occasions, whereby somebody deliberately intimidates or harasses another. Other forms of bullying may include any combination of physical, emotional and verbal abuse. Bullying affects everyone. It can be seen in the community, in the workplace and especially in our schools
    Of course, bullying is nothing new. Our immediate concern as caring citizens who purport to believe that our children are our future and our most valuable resources must seriously be about the task of curtailing this insidious behavior .When children kill themselves or feel like committing suicide because of being bullied, it is our responsibility as adults, parents and professionals, to go to work immediately and get the job done.  Perhaps, we can never completely eradicate such behavior due to the sociological, emotional and psychological ramifications surrounding it; we can do a much better job of curtailing bullying and minimizing the hurt and isolation that accompanies the victimization.
   Parents certainly cannot cure this malady alone as they have no control over the behavior of children outside their homes. We can expect parents to listen to their children who may fall victim to this behavior and seek remedies from experts or from those whose position it is to oversee the affairs of children—to keep them safe.
   What agency or institution is more directly aligned to oversee the affairs of children than our schools, both publically and privately? Of course, here we go again, placing a gigantic social burden on the shoulders of our school systems at a time when local and state governments seemed to have turned their backs on public education professionals due to recent economic downturn. How about our churches? We seem to hardly ever hold them accountable for this aspect of humanity; this is a subject for  a later date. Let’s not wait too long for addressing this area. And then, there are other agencies receiving government funds just as our public schools do whose missions are to assist with social maladies, but we tend to ask, who is more directly involved on a day-to-day basis where the rubber meets the road and where the children are most victimized than our schools?  Thus, our schools must rise to the occasion and bear the burden if we genuinely are concerned and care about our “most valuable resources,” the children.
If our schools are to tackle this problem head on, then it is going to take more than bullying policies. Reactionary approaches have been the status quo. Meaningful prevention strategies to decrease the hurt and pain that our young victims endure must be implemented. We can, if we choose and truly care enough, come very close to putting a halt to this cruel and ongoing anti-social behavior.  The answer to this age-old problem has always been right here in our own back yards. There has never been a reason for us to have to travel over the rainbow as Dorothy did in “The Wizard of Oz”.
   The answer is to build character. We build character when we implement character development programs that teach our young people and ultimately our community the “Golden Rule”. Understand that there will be naysayers who will decry that it is not the role of the school to teach what should be taught in the home, churches, mosques, and synagogues, but can we allow another decade to pass and watch so many children literally dry up on the vine and die as it is occurring across these United States of Americam--the same America that we boast of as being the greatest nation on the planet? Early on we must denounce such naysayers and not allow them to distract good intentions, for there is a war going on, and at this time, any detractor can easily be seen as the enemy.
   It is true that our school system attempted to implement a full-scale character development program, and continues to have vestiges of this program in several of our schools.  CMS experts should examine the remnants of this program to learn why it failed to continue as a viable program to contribute to the overall development of our children. Like any good and effective program, there must be support from the top. This support has to be more than lip service from the superintendent, and must be well-understood and approved by the school board, top administrative teams as well as community leaders. We came close to having this buy-in before, but that which tore at the mere fabric of this program and prevented it from flourishing and making a difference for boys and girls has been, sorry to say, the fact that character has to be modeled on a day-to-day basis from top down. If the leader or leaders lack character, then the program is doomed; it does not stand a chance for survival, and if we are fair to ourselves, it should become quite clear as to how such a wonderful and well intended program could have corroded over the years, even though there were always a handful of schools that implemented state of the art character development programs.
   Good and effective character development programs teach children, staff members and parents, first of all, what it means to be “good”. What is good behavior? What is a good attitude? What is good attendance?  What are good grades?  Character is knowing the good, believing the good and doing the good. We teach character through not assuming that children understand it already when they enter our schoolhouse doors, but making sure that they have  opportunities to be actively involved in experiences where they are immersed in the principles of responsibility, respect, perseverance, cooperation, kindness and caring, fairness and justice, and the list goes on. Our ultimate goal is to teach civility and good citizenship.
   When character development programs are implemented effectively, they are seamless; they are not seen as another program to be dumped upon the many others that are mandated by local administrators and the state. Character becomes the culture of the school and is integrated into all that takes place. Bullying has no place in such an environment and will eventually eradicate itself. Even adult bullies feel out of place when character and “goodness” become the norm. Bullying and “goodness” cannot coexist.  To solve the problem of bullying, we must all step up to the plate. We must all have our character and moral compasses checked.
   Let us curtail bullying today; let us teach Character.

Thursday, October 11, 2012

Blog 119: Life's Lessons in Charlotte

By Nicole Roper
(Guest Writer)

     I moved to Charlotte in April 2003 from Atlanta but a long way from my home of Long Beach, California. I moved because I had a new opportunity, to open the University of Phoenix in North Carolina.  I was 29 years old, married, with a 2-year old daughter, and pregnant with my son. It was a great opportunity for my family and me.
   Charlotte was a perfect city for me. I learned history, culture and a lot about myself. Over my nearly 10 years in Charlotte, I grew, personally, professionally and spiritually.  It was through my church homes of the Park Ministries and later the Friendship Missionary Baptist Church that I learned, no matter where I was, if I "walked by faith", I would be fine.  
   It was in 2009 when I ran for membership on the school board, I learned that I could have a voice and contribute to the community conversation.   It was through this experience that I met Dr. Vernon Herron at the Tuesday Morning Breakfast Forum.  Dr. Herron always had a kind word to say and a great perspective to share. When I joined the Friendship Missionary Baptist Church, it was Dr. Herron who made my children and me feel welcome. He always asked questions of his concern and genuinely wanted to know the answer.
   The nearly 10 years in Charlotte brought several personal and professional changes; divorce, layoffs, new jobs, and new friends. But what I learned was that these situations and people don't define who you are. 
   Spending my 30s in Charlotte was a perfect time in my life because I could continue to explore and that I did.  I found that after being away from home for over 20 years, I am still Nicole from Long Beach, California and that is perfectly fine.  I brought my ideas and values across the country, living in Las Vegas, Phoenix, Houston and Atlanta along the way. As I met people through work, politics, church and community projects, I continued to gain confidence in my personal path. I never understood how my choices and changes would come together, but God did.  He put the right people in my path at the right time to prepare me.
   I left Charlotte in September 2012, with a 12-year old daughter and an 8-year old (soon to be 9) son, because of a new adventure which was my new marriage to Rodney Roper, Jr. We have now moved to Fredericksburg, Virginia where he lives and works.  I am excited for this new chapter in life and for the spending the rest of my life with Rodney. Together, we now have six children. 
    What I learned from the City of Charlotte and the people whom I met along the way, were the right lessons to be passed along to our children. Those lessons include to value our differences, faith and contribution  to one’s community; to be kind to whomever you meet, because you don't know how much they need warmth, greetings, acceptance. (thank you Dr. Herron) and to be known when your season is over
      Thank you Charlotte!

Thursday, October 4, 2012

Blog 118: Who else?


By Vernon M. Herron

     Exercising one’s voting right is an obligation and a privilege, which is God given and is socially mandated. The sacred obligation of voting is a continuation of the struggles and pain of our foreparents, for social justice and governmental participation. We are reminded that “a voteless people is a hopeless people.”
     Use the following guide to elect good government. Who else?
 Mecklenburg County 2012 Democratic Candidates

Mecklenburg County Early Voting Calendar and Locations

     Here is a calendar of early voting sites and times. The Board of Elections office is NOT an early voting site.

     --- Weekdays Oct. 18 through Nov. 2: Hal Marshall Annex, 618 N. College St. operates 8 a.m.-7 p.m. Other sites below operate 11 a.m.-7 p.m.

     --- Weekend hours for all locations: Saturdays Oct. 20 and 27 and Nov. 3: 10 a.m.-5 p.m. Sundays Oct. 21 and 28th: 1-4 p.m.

     Other sites in addition to Hal Marshall Annex:
Beatties Ford Road Library, 2412 Beatties Ford Rd.
Bette Rae Thomas Rec Center, 2921 Tuckaseegee Rd.
Cornelius Town Hall, 21445 Catawba Ave, Cornelius
Gibson Building, 11430 N. Community House Rd.
Hickory Grove Library, 5935 Hickory Grove Rd.
Independence Regional Library, 6000 Conference Dr.
Main Branch Library (Downtown), 310 N. Tryon St.
Marion Diehl Rec. Center, 2219 Tyvola Rd.
Mint Hill Library, 6840 Matthews - Mint Hill Rd.
Morrison Regional Library, 7015 Morrison Blvd.
Mountain Island Library, 4420 Hoyt Galvin Way
North County Regional Library, 16500 Holly Crest Ln., Huntersville
Old Bradford Clinic, 196 South Trade St, Matthews
Rameses Temple, 4919 Beatties Ford Rd.
South County Regional Library, 5801 Rea Rd.
Steele Creek Library, 13620 Steele Creek Rd.
Sugar Creek Library, 4045 N. Tryon St.
UNC Charlotte (Cone Center), 9201 University City Blvd.
University City Regional Library, 301 E. W.T. Harris Blvd.
Veterans Park, 2136 Central Ave.
West Boulevard Library, 2157 West Blvd.